ThatsLife
  • WIN
  • News
  • Real Life
  • Food
  • Lifestyle
  • Pets
  • Your Stars
  • Puzzles
  • Podcasts
  • Video
ThatsLife
  • WIN
  • News
  • Real Life
  • Food
  • Lifestyle
  • Pets
  • Your Stars
  • Puzzles
  • Podcasts
  • Video
Subscribe
  1. Home
  2. Real Life

What it's like to raise my kids with TWO husbands

They don't even know who fathered their last child! - by Getty Images
  • 14 Jun 2019

A polyamorous ‘thruple’ are opening up about their relationship to prove that three isn’t a crowd.

Alexia Shrout lives with her two husbands, Doug Shrout, and Jacob Shrout-Mchaffie and their three children in Maumee, Ohio. 

What it's like to raise my kids with TWO husbands
Getty Images

Alexia told BTV: “A lot of males when they find out that I have two husbands, they always say: ‘do you want a third?’ Technically it’s called Polyandry, a woman with two husbands.” 

Alexia, who works as a professional body piercer, was in an open relationship with Doug when she met Jacob. 

She said: “Me and Jake were actually best friend for three years and then we started having feelings for each other. Me and Doug had dated a couple other women before Jake came along and we broke up with them."

Realising she was falling for Jake, Alexia confided in her husband. 

Alexia said: “Doug was like: ‘all right as long as you still love me fully then let's see if we can make this work’ - that’s how it got started.” 

Getty Images
Getty Images

Despite all sleeping in the same bed - Doug and Jacob are both straight, and are not intimate with one another. 

Doug said: “While we have another male in our relationship there is no sexual desire from me towards him." Jacob added: "I love him to death so I don’t necessarily have to feel like I need to have sex with him to show him love."

Doug and Alexia have been together fifteen years, opening up their relationship to Jake eight years ago; and in July 2016 the trio had a ceremony to mark their commitment to one another. 

Alexia said: “We had a binding ceremony July 16th, 2016. One hundred family and friends came and supported us. It was a wedding without the legal marriage certificate. 

When Jake decided to join our family we had a family meeting and discussed with the kids our situation. The only thing that has not been discussed with our kids is our intimacy behind closed doors."

The thruple are together raising their three children, Skyler, 14, Donovan, 11 and their one-year-old baby girl Tegan.

The two sons are biologically Doug’s, however the triad have not disclosed the biological father of their daughter. 

Getty Images
Getty Images

Alexia said: "We don't want any favouritism. We want all of our children and dads to be equal. Our kids were older when Jake came into our lives. So they just call Jake by his first name. Doug is their biological father so obviously he is called Dad. 

"Tegan will be calling both of them Dad. They were both there in the delivery room while I was giving birth.” 

Skyler said: "I got three parents, I don’t really think of my step-dad as my full on dad but that’s it.”  Donovan added: "I just think of them like a normal family.”

Alexia, Doug and Jacob’s friends and family support them but this hasn’t always been the case. 

Alexia said: "It was a little tough; some family members obviously were not on board.” 

Jacob added: "Most of the time it was really hard for my mum to accept it right away. She honestly thought that it was going to fail."

Getty Images
Getty Images

"My dad thought that this was a joke and he was like, 'Oh he will come back’. They are just so old-school you know." 

The family are also aware that their unique situation could cause problems for the children. Doug, 33, told Barcroft TV: "Sometimes I think about what their friends may think or you know if they get any type of teasing or anything like that in school because of our relationship.”

The triad want to highlight that every polyamorous relationship is different, and for them - three isn’t a crowd. 

Alexia said: "Every single polyandrous relationship is set up differently, so each person has different rules, different boundaries.” 

Doug said: "When you have the people that are with you as long as we have been together, I mean honestly we always ask where that person’s at. Where’s Doug at? Where’s Alexia at? When are they going to get home? So is three a crowd? It’s not a crowd for us, it’s comfortable."

Subscribe to That's Life!-+ save!

Subscribe to That's Life!

Subscribe Now
Subscribe to That's Life!

Subscribe to That's Life!-+ save!

Subscribe to That's Life!

Subscribe Now
Subscribe to That's Life!

Recommended to you

There's A Better, Faster Way To Predict Sepsis
Watch 0:37

There's A Better, Faster Way To Predict Sepsis

{headline}

{headline}

Woman claims she inspired her parents to be polyamorous

Woman claims she inspired her parents to be polyamorous

Being Polyamorous And Christian Is Not A Sin

Being Polyamorous And Christian Is Not A Sin

I moved my lover in with my man!

I moved my lover in with my man!

Sharing Our Girlfriend Saved Our Marriage

Sharing Our Girlfriend Saved Our Marriage

{headline}

{headline}

I fell in love with my friend - and we share the same man!

I fell in love with my friend - and we share the same man!

I turn people into art!

I turn people into art!

Holly the heart hero

Holly the heart hero

{headline}

{headline}

30-year heartbreak  - who killed Kerry Turner?

30-year heartbreak - who killed Kerry Turner?

My runny nose was cancer

My runny nose was cancer

I was paralysed at the beach

I was paralysed at the beach

Horror at the servo - I was abducted and raped

Horror at the servo - I was abducted and raped

My husband forgot I was his wife so we wed twice

My husband forgot I was his wife so we wed twice

Empty nesters... so we adopted SEVEN kids!

Empty nesters... so we adopted SEVEN kids!

Back from the brink!

Back from the brink!

ThatsLife
  • Gold Club
  • Online Entry FAQ
  • About Us
  • Subscribe Today
  • Contact Us
  • Terms
  • Competitions
  • Privacy Policy
ThatsLife Magazine Subscribe
  • Gold Club
  • Online Entry FAQ
  • About Us
  • Subscribe Today
  • Contact Us
  • Terms
  • Competitions
  • Privacy Policy

Brands

  • New Idea
  • Who
  • Girlfriend
  • Practical Parenting

Our Network

  • Better Homes and Gardens
  • BHG Shop
  • marie claire
  • Beauty Crew
  • New Idea food
  • Women's Weekly Food
  • Bounty Parents
  • Home Beautiful
  • All Recipes
  • 7plus
  • 7News
  • Sunrise
  • Starts at 60
  • The West Australian
  • Perth Now
  • 7mate
  • 7Sport
  • Hard to Find
© 2022 Are Media PTY LTD
All products are independently selected, tested or recommended by our team of experts.If you buy something, we may earn an affiliate commission.
Get more from

Magazine Subscription Offer

Subscribe to That's Life!-+ save!

Shop This Offer
Subscribe to That's Life!