A woman diagnosed with terminal ovarian cancer has written a touching dating profile for her husband of 26 years so he can find love after she has passed.
Amy Krouse Rosenthal is an American author, most famous for her children books and her memoir, Encyclopedia of an Ordinary Life.
Since her diagnosis with terminal ovarian cancer, she thought of the future and of her husband, and decided to write him a dating profile.
The article is both a tribute to the amazing man she fell in love with, and also a blessing to any love he finds after her death.
‘First, the basics: He is 5-foot-10, 160 pounds, with salt-and-pepper hair and hazel eyes,’ she begins.
‘He is a sharp dresser’ with ‘a flair for fabulous socks.’
He’s a wonderful father, an excellent cook, and a handyman.
‘Jason is compassionate — and he can flip a pancake.’
‘If you’re looking for a dreamy, let’s-go-for-it travel companion, Jason is your man.’
‘He showed up at our first pregnancy ultrasound with flowers. This is a man who, because he is always up early, surprises me every Sunday morning by making some kind of oddball smiley face out of items near the coffeepot: a spoon, a mug, a banana.’
‘This is a man who emerges from the minimart or gas station and says, “Give me your palm.” And, voilà, a colorful gumball appears.’
‘My guess is you know enough about him now. So let’s swipe right,’ she concludes, referring to the dating app Tinder where people ‘swipe right’ on people they are interested in.
‘I am wrapping this up on Valentine’s Day, and the most genuine, non-vase-oriented gift I can hope for is that the right person reads this, finds Jason, and another love story begins.’
Above her signature, Amy leaves a massive white space.
She says: ‘I’ll leave this intentional empty space below as a way of giving you two the fresh start you deserve.'
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David recalled a similar thing happening with his parents: ‘When my mother was dying of cancer at age 44, she put together a list of eligible women for my father to consider as a future wife. She also wrote out menus for dinners and dinner parties for groups of varying sizes, something my parents had done throughout their adult lives together. It was, as is your article, permission to a beloved spouse both to grieve and to keep living.’
Ryan said it inspired him to be the kind of man her husband is: ‘As a 24 year old single man it is hard for me to truly relate to what a great marriage is. But this gave me a strong picture of what I want in my future relationship. A selfless, loving, compassionate, and supportive partnership.’
Katie found the article on the 5th anniversary of her own husband’s death: ‘What are the odds that I would find something so beautiful on such a dark day? You want to give your husband the strength to continue. By publishing this, you have managed to lend me a bit of that strength, as well. Thank you so very, very much. I promise you that the love you and your husband share will endure, no matter what.’