A bride has expressed her disappointment over the fact her bridesmaids aren’t making enough effort for her big day – in particular, not one of the six members of the bridal party has thrown her a party.
No hen’s night, no bridal shower – not even a brunch has been thrown for the disappointed bride.
“Am I allowed to be upset that my wedding is two weeks away, and I haven’t had any type of shower or party thrown for me?” the bride asked anonymously to A Practical Wedding’s advice column.
She has six bridesmaids — two who live locally, three about three hour’s drive away and her 19-year-old sister, who is at college out of town.
“I never expected her to be the one planning things, or even to be able to attend any shower or party or anything. But I don’t understand what the deal is with my other bridesmaids, or my mom,” the bride added.
“I never wanted anything expensive, but I was hoping to at least have a nice lunch with pretty napkins or something! It seems so bratty to express that I’m upset that nobody threw me a party, especially when four of my bridesmaids are already travelling for the wedding and everything.”
With the wedding just two weeks away, the anonymous bride now feels it is too late for a party to be thrown.
Does she have the right to be upset and should she say something to her bridesmaids?
According A Practical Wedding’s advice, it’s too late and she shouldn’t make things awkward by bringing it up with her friends.
“There’s no real way to fix the problem. Would telling them do anything other than spread around some blame and guilt? Will your relationship be improved or harmed by having that convo,” the columnist Liz Moorhead wrote.
She also added that, no, brides aren’t “owed” parties of any kind, and that if the bride really wanted to have a hen’s night, she could organise it herself in the remaining two weeks.
However, Facebook users thought otherwise.
“The advice given in here is really bad,” expressed one person.
“She’s obviously really upset about this so why should she bottle it all up? It’s all about communicating early on about what you’re hoping for and helping out with the planning if it’s going to make it easier on your bridal party. So I’d advise for her to have a chat with her girls and ask to do something fun together before the big day in place of a mega bachelorette party.”
Another user added “I’d be upset, you’re allowed to be upset. It’s a pretty well known job of theirs to do this, so did you ever given any indication you didn’t want anything? Go to your mum. She should know what’s going on.”
This article originally appeared on New Idea.